Isn’t it an amazing feeling when you meet someone and the two of you click right away? You talk and talk for hours completely blown away by how much you have in common. You laugh at corny jokes and you’re comfortable with how well you get along, so much so that you share dirty secrets you really shouldn’t tell. Then one day you catch a lie. You don’t say anything because you think to yourself it’s not a lie it’s just a mistake so you let it go. Soon after, you catch another lie. Once again you let it go because everything is going so well. You find yourself ignoring that little voice inside you that tells you there are too many inconsistencies with this person. Pay attention – you’re in denial.
Now you start questioning the lies to try and decipher fact from fiction. The only problem is now they are denying they said the lie to begin with. Pay attention – they can’t remember the lie they told before so they have to cling to the lie they’re telling now because it’s fresh in their memory. So - now you find yourself arguing what you know to be the truth. They are insisting they never said it and you know they did. You think you’re losing your mind. To make matters worse, to take attention off them they bring up your dirty little secrets and you are now defending your actions from another situation and have completely stopped focusing on the initial confrontation - their lies! Sound familiar? STOP THE MADNESS! Here’s what you know. They are a liar – period. Stop driving yourself crazy by trying to force them to confront what they will forever deny. You’re either going to continue the relationship with a person you know is a liar or step away from the bullshit and move on.
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