Searching For Answers

If you have a suspicion your relationship has started to go astray, going through your partner’s cell phone, email, wallet or dresser is not the best way to handle it. This action is an invasion of privacy and can cause more complications than solutions. Do you have a right to do this because they are your mate? No. Violating someone’s privacy is a betrayal of trust and by doing so you create a situation that now has one betrayal addressing a possible betrayal. If by chance you find something while snooping and confront the offender, a clash of ethics then become the focus of attention. You are attacking their violation of your relationship and they are attacking your violation of their privacy. There is no right or wrong method for confronting a suspicion of distrust. Each occurrence is determined on a case by case basis. What requires class and sophistication on one occasion has nothing to do with having to check someone in another. The point is to not react impulsively but instead stop and think about which approach is most effective for you. Some are able to place suspicions on a back burner and go on with life dealing with the situation if it materializes in front of their face. Others unable to process information in that manner opt to directly confront their suspicions head on.  And still others – snoop. Don’t do something wrong to catch a wrong. No matter what method you use to find out if your suspicions are true you’re still going to have to verbally communicate. Whatever situation you find yourself in throughout life, your actions and behavior will always determine the outcome.

 While Michael was stinking up the bathroom, Brenda took this as her opportunity to see what’s really going on with him.  She went through his pants pockets. Empty! Where in the hell did he put his wallet? He act like I want what’s in it.  Dang, I just want to see what’s there and you know, if there happen to be a few 100’s….Brenda looked under the mattress, Ah hah!! She opened his wallet and the first thing she saw was a picture of him and a family….This Mofo is married? Get the hell out of here!  He told me he wasn’t!! Aw hell naw! She opened the bill compartment and took everything.  Hmph!  Brenda quickly put her clothes on, gathered up her belongings, opened the hotel room door, put the stuff in the hall then walked to the bathroom.  She kicked the door open, Michael instinctively covered himself. “What are you doing?” he asked. You married motherfucker? “What? No! Yes! How do you know?” he demanded. She held up his wallet then tossed it towards the bed. “What the fuck are you doing with my wallet?” Michael wanted to know.  Don’t you worry about your precious wallet. You have a wife and kids?  I specifically asked you if you were married! “Look, we can talk about this when I get off the toilet. Can you excuse me for a minute? Damn!” Michael tried to close the door but Brenda blocked him.  Naw fuck that, I want to know why you fucking lied to me!! “Will you let me wipe my ass please?! If you really wanna know, I don’t owe you shit. The only woman I have to answer to don’t look like you and aint as easy as you!” You know what? Fuck you! Brenda turned to leave.  Michael yelled after her “Fuck you! Oh already done that!” He laughed.  Brenda walked out of the hotel and slammed the door.  She picked up her purse and his clothes off the floor and left the hotel.  Answer to that Bitch! Brenda got into her car and drove off. About a mile away, she rolled down the window and throw his clothes in the wind.