When a partner violates the bond that makes a relationship exclusive we are forced to choose between right and wrong. Do we forgive their act of betrayal and work through it or do we walk away. For many of us the level of acceptability when it comes to a betrayal of trust within a relationship varies based on our moral compass. While everyone acquires the basic definition of society’s right and wrong; the lessons taught are often contradictory. As children we learn if we do the wrong thing we could be punished yet as we grow older we are expected to forgive someone for doing wrong to us because it is not our place to judge. Hilary forgave Bill but Elizabeth did not forgive John. Can you live the rest of your life with a person facing them every day without thinking about what they did to you? Because they didn’t do this for you they did it to you. If they did it once will they do it again? If they really loved you why did they do it in the first place? Can you trust anything about them ever again? If it’s true we teach people how to treat us then by forgiving the infidelity what exactly are we teaching … if they walk on us its okay because we’re a bigger person we can forgive? Everyone will have an opinion but the decision on whether or not to continue with the relationship will be based the way you feel about yourself - your real self.
Are they sorry? Do you believe it will never happen again? How deeply are you in love with this person? Is the love you once shared stronger than a mistake? Whatever you choose, your decision should be based on what will keep you emotionally healthy. You and only you know what you can live with and at the end of the night you and only you have to be comfortable with the person you let share your bed.
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