Listening To Our Inner Voice

So many times we are faced with a situation in life where we immediately recognize something is not right but are often willing to overlook the obvious because we either don’t want to rock the boat, don’t want to offend someone or just don’t care. When we meet someone and things are working out great, we usually consider ourselves in a relationship after weeks of spending time together. The date may at first appear to be the perfect match for us but eventually we are presented with signs that indicate our initial observation was incorrect. As much as we tell ourselves and our friends how happy we are, inside we know that person is not who we really want to be with. Thus the trap begins and even though we will never admit it out loud - we settle.  Most people can only keep their true personality hidden for about 90 days, after that what you see is what you get. In other words, whatever behavior patterns they display on the 91^st day is the person you will forever deal with. If you compare the way a person is on day 91 to the way they were on say day 9, 20 or 30 – you will notice a remarkable difference in behavior and personality. Keep in mind the same can be said for you. The one person in the world you will never be able to tell a lie… is yourself.  You may try to convince yourself of something but when it’s all said and done that voice within will always say I told you so. Suggesting you walk away from a relationship because your mate squeezes the toothpaste in the middle and you squeeze it from the end would be unrealistic. Differences in daily performance cannot compare to differences in morality. If you give food to the less fortunate and your mate yells at them for asking for help – that’s a problem. You can share your concerns and explain why helping those in need is something passionate to your heart but if your mate rejects your feelings the relationship isn’t right for you.  Everyone should have an internal list of non negotiable items they are unwilling to compromise. Not only should we all have that internal list but we should be willing to acknowledge and honor it.  Listen to your inner voice. If a relationship isn’t right, walk away before you have too much of yourself invested in it and you end up settling on a life that brings more sadness than happiness. You can always buy a separate tube of toothpaste you cannot give someone passion if they are unable to accept it.