Love DNA

Love, the most widely recognizable sought after feeling in the world is as unique as our DNA. Just as no two people think alike, no two people love the same. Love - is individual. Universally we all acknowledge love feels good but how good it feels depends on our exclusive inner being. When someone presents us with advice on love keep in mind their information is merely one scenario out of billions of scenarios. Most of us operate under the premise there is only one way to love but the truth is there is no template for it. As a species everyone generally uses similar guidelines which have comparable characteristics but the depth to which we love another person is based solely on our individual feelings, upbringing and moral compass. When you see a couple struggling with conflict due to unfaithfulness, then see the same couple a year later and they’re madly in love, many of us by instinct wonder how the partner who was wronged could now be in love.  We question their ability to forgive based on our own ability to forgive. The truth is some people are more forgiving than others. People who possess a forgiving nature will eventually be able to move on. Those who have difficulty forgiving anything will not have as easy a time of doing so. Neither approach is right nor wrong - it’s just who we are. It would probably help with future relationships if we studied our partners; learning through their behavior and actions how they love.  Many of our conflicts come out of our inability to understand how our partner could hurt us or behave in a certain way because they're suppose to love us and more importantly because we wouldn’t treat them in that manner. What we are really doing is comparing the way they love to the way we love and that simply won’t work.  While the way our partner defines love may be similar to ours in fashion, they will never love exactly the same way we do. By understanding our partner’s likes, wants, desires, happiness, sadness and yes anger – we in essence learn how they love. And if we know how they love, we are less likely to become disappointed in the way they love us.